Being Dianne

Dianne is divorced but for the sake of her two daughters she lives next to her exhusband, sharing a joint double garden. Good for the girls but what about her? How can she move on if Alan and his new fiancée are always around?

Her postdivorce romances have stalled: Andile, her lover turned friend, and Faye, her secret Tinder date turned sometimes lover. Both Andile and Faye want more but Di is not sure what she wants. Her daughters were not thrilled with the idea of her with a boyfriend, will they freak out if their mom has a girlfriend? Is it even worth introducing them if Faye might turn out not to be the one for her?

But when Dianne’s eldest daughter deals with homophobia at school, Dianne feels compelled to speak out and be honest about who she is. With the support of her friends Kari, Lily, Shelley and now Shireen, she might just have the courage to do it. But what will the fallout be?



Publish date:



Kwela Books
September 1, 2021

Book type:




Paperback / softback

Book Club Questions

  1. What are the key themes in this novel? Did any resonate with you?
  2. What did you think about the post-divorce relationship between Di and Alan? Could you live across the garden from an ex-partner?
  3. How did you feel about the relationship between Di and her daughters?
  4. What do you think of the way that Di dealt with her post-divorce relationships relative to her daughters? Should she have been more open with them? Less so?
  5. Do you think Di dealt with the homophobia at Kate’s school in the correct way? What should she have done?
  6. What did you think of Andile’s experience of Cape Town?
  7. What do you think of the way that Di dealt with her own sexuality in relation to her daughters? What do you think she should have done?
  8. What is your view on the question of sleepovers that Di grapples with in chapter 18?
  9. If you’ve read all the books in the series (Yay! Thank you J) What did you think of the way the friendships have evolved from Being Kari to Being Dianne?
  10. What did you think of the way that the novel ended? How would you have liked it to end.

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